Rev Dr Margaret Mayman, St Michaels UC Melbourne, has kindly provided the following example to us, with this note to Joy Schloss:
Hi Joy, Thank you for being in touch. I have an anonymized funeral service which I’ve attached. I have done some adapting over the years so can’t be sure about all of the source material. I have noted where words are closely based on a liturgy by Dorothy McRae-McMahon. All the best for your Explorers session.
Warm regards, Margaret
Celebration of the Life of NN
WELCOME AND OPENING WORDS
As we gather, we acknowledge the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation, custodians of the land on which we meet, honouring their heritage and culture and praying with them for justice and for the recognition of their voice.
Good afternoon everyone, and welcome to St Michael’s Church as we gather to honour and remember the life of Name.
St Michael’s Church is a living faith community and it is on behalf of that community that I welcome you today. In our expression of inclusive hospitality at St Michael’s we say to all who come here, “wherever you have come from, wherever you are going to, whatever you believe, whatever you do not believe, you are welcome here.”
I invite all of you who are gathered here to feel at home in this place and to make it yours for the sacred time we share together remembering Name and sharing our love and care with Name and for Name family and friends.
I have known Name for xx years – details about connection, person’s faith if appropriate.
Name died peacefully last Sunday, the ending of a rich and fulfilling life. Through their illness and in the time leading up to their death, Name was surrounded by the care and love of family, by their beloved partner Name and their children, Name and Name and their families.
Today we have gathered to celebrate Name’s life and to support and show our love to their family and to all the people who will miss them deeply.
Family member names, we know how much you loved Name and can only imagine how much you will miss them. Today, and in the days to come, we offer our sympathy and our care.
May being surrounded by others who loved and admired Name bring you a sense of comfort, and in that comfort may you find strength, and peace, and hope.
All of you present today will have your own memories of Name. Remember them well. Keep talking about them and cherishing the person they were. Give thanks for their life and the place they held in yours.
As we say goodbye to Name,
we claim that all human life is valuable,
and the truth and integrity and hopefulness
which resides in each life, lives on.
Name’s life is joined now with all that is created,
stretching into the past and into the future.
Name lived their Christian spirituality with a focus on living well,
more than on traditional beliefs or creeds.
They were a faithful member of this congregation.
They were an explorer, interested in learning and extending their understanding of the interpretation of scripture and the connections it has to our daily lives.
Name lived as one who embraced the way of Jesus and the truth that life is a gift to be lived fully in the here and now. They felt a deep sense of belonging to the earth and cared passionately about its well-being and the damage done to it by human activity. With this, they held a deep reverence for life, aware of the mystery of the sacred in all of life. They took delight in the wonder, beauty and splendour of creation. They had an appreciation of the arts in music and literature. They found meaning and purpose in living by being honest and open in their relationships with others. They felt compassion for the vulnerable, advocated for the disadvantaged and the oppressed. They lived life well.
The gifts and graces which Name offered in life will not be lost in death.
The creativity which they brought to their life and relationships lies now within the lives of those who loved them and knew them and will travel into the future with them.
Prayer intro
We recognise the importance of this occasion by encountering the depths of connection and solidarity in prayer. Prayer doesn’t depend on belief in an ‘out there’ interventionist God but rather Prayer is about deep awareness, about being present to our deepest selves and to the world in which we live in the presence of the Sacred, which is within us and among us.
Let us be still for a moment, in the presence of the sacred source of life,
bound by love and sadness, tears and laughter.
Let us hold a silence as we still our minds and hearts as we remember Name and treasure this life which we have shared.
silence
Prayer
Holy One, sacred energy, source of all life,
We gather to celebrate and give thanks for Name’s life.
We come bringing our thoughts, our memories and our feelings.
We come together to recognise the end of Name’s life,
and to remember with dignity their gifts and their struggles.
As we reflect upon the meaning of life and death,
may the assurance of eternal love enrich this experience.
In the shelter of this place,
help us to draw near to you and each other.
We pray for Name’s closest family and friends,
for those who miss them most,
that they may know peace.
May the beauty of life renew our hope.
Strengthen our compassion for each other,
and our mercy and forgiveness.
Help us find the strength we need.
In your many Names, we pray. Amen.
READING – Psalm 121
HYMN Touch the Earth Lightly
Words: Shirley Murray
Music: Colin Gibson
Touch the earth lightly,
use the earth gently,
nourish the life of the world in our care:
gift of great wonder,
ours to surrender,
trust for the children tomorrow will bear.
We who endanger,
who create hunger,
agents of death for all creatures that live,
we who would foster
clouds of disaster,
God of our planet, forestall and forgive.
Let there be greening,
birth from the burning,
water that blesses and air that is sweet,
health in God’s garden,
hope in God’s children,
regeneration that peace will complete.
God of all living,
God of all loving,
God of the seeding, the snow, and the sun,
teach us, deflect us,
Christ reconnect us,
using us gently and making us one.
EULOGY AND REFLECTIONS
READING
Matthew 5: 3-9
When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to them. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying:
‘Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
‘Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
‘Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
‘Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
‘Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.
‘Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
‘Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
NOTICES
PRAYER AND WORDS OF COMMITTAL
Closing Words
As we come to the end of this time of remembering Name, we are reminded that in all reality, we do not know what happens after death and there are a range of understandings and beliefs that people gathered here will hold.
These are all ways that human beings have of making meaning out life and death and at this time it is important to acknowledge and respect our different understandings.
Whatever you believe or hope, I invite you to stand firm in your convictions as I say the final words.
We respect and admire Name’s journey through life. We have loved who they were, what they offered to others, and we have learnt much from their life.
As we come to the moment of farewell
part of our grief may be regret
for things done or left undone,
words said, or never said.
This is the time to lay aside those regrets
and to honour the spirit of Name,
who would not want them carried into the future.
Let us receive that gift of generosity and go forward in peace.[1]
Prayer
In the Christian tradition,
we entrust Name’s spirit to the God we know
through the life of Jesus of Nazareth,
the God who is the source of life and love,
Spirit at the heart of the universe,
who in life and death is with us always.
Eternal God, by your creative power you give us the gift of life,
and in your redeeming love, you give us new life in Jesus Christ.
Confident in the love you have for all,
we commend Name into your keeping.
Hold them and let them rest this day in peace. Amen.
Go now in peace, Name.
You are in death
as loved as you were in life –
Travel safely with our love.
Committal
In now committing Name’s body to be cremated
we do so with deep reverence,
for their body during life
was the dwelling place of a unique and beloved personality.
That body now returns to the living earth
but Name’s spirit lives on.
NN – Loving parent, child, spouse, friend and vocation,
Example to the many people whose lives you touched
Your life in all its fullness is honoured
Your death accepted over time
Your memory cherished always in the hearts of all who love you
In gratitude for your life and the privilege of sharing it with you, with deep reverence, we commit your body to be cremated, ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
As the tides flow, may the waves carry you gently
As the new day dawns, may the richness of life be seen in all its beauty.
As the sun sets, may the source of peace rest with you.
HYMN often traditional
BLESSING
For the living, it is time to leave.
May you now give to others the love that you can no longer give to Name.
For the lives you lead, are now their honour and their memorial.
And now let us go into the world,
glad that we have loved,
free to weep for the one we have lost,
empowered to live life well
and to affirm the hope of human existence.
May the blessing of Holy One,
Creator, Liberator and Surrounding Spirit
be with us all this day and forever more. Amen.
Go in peace.
Compiled, adapted or written by Rev Dr Margaret Mayman,
St Michael’s Uniting Church, Melbourne.
[1] This section in italics is from a liturgy By Rev Dorothy McRae-McMahon.
* This is one of the examples we will look at in the Merthyr Road explorers on Wednesday.
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